Friday, January 30, 2015

Playing for Change

Playing for Change records street musicians from around the world playing the same song and creates videos of the resulting mix. Mark Johnson, the co-founder of the movement, said he started the project “because we wanted to find something that everybody in the world could believe in, that could inspire us to move past the things that might divide us” and this is exactly what music can do. This time, it was the turn of the classic “Sittin’ On The Dock of the Bay” by Otis Redding.

[via facebook]

Thursday, January 29, 2015

13 habits of likeable people

Too many people succumb to the mistaken belief that being likeable comes from natural, unteachable traits that belong only to a lucky few—the good looking, the fiercely social, and the incredibly talented. It’s easy to fall prey to this misconception. In reality, being likeable is under your control, and it’s a matter of emotional intelligence (EQ).

In a study conducted at UCLA, subjects rated over 500 adjectives based on their perceived significance to likeability. The top-rated adjectives had nothing to do with being gregarious, intelligent, or attractive (innate characteristics). Instead, the top adjectives were sincerity, transparency, and capacity for understanding (another person).

These adjectives, and others like them, describe people who are skilled in the social side of emotional intelligence. TalentSmart research data from more than a million people shows that people who possess these skills aren’t just highly likeable, they outperform those who don’t by a large margin.

We did some digging to uncover the key behaviors that emotionally intelligent people engage in that make them so likeable. Here are 13 of the best:

They Ask Questions
The biggest mistake people make when it comes to listening is they’re so focused on what they’re going to say next or how what the other person is saying is going to affect them that they fail to hear what’s being said. The words come through loud and clear, but the meaning is lost.

A simple way to avoid this is to ask a lot of questions. People like to know you’re listening, and something as simple as a clarification question shows that not only are you listening, you also care about what they’re saying. You’ll be surprised how much respect and appreciation you gain just by asking questions.

They Don’t Pass Judgment
If you want to be likeable you must be open-minded. Being open-minded makes you approachable and interesting to others. No one wants to have a conversation with someone who has already formed an opinion and is not willing to listen.

Having an open mind is crucial in the workplace where approachability means access to new ideas and help. To eliminate preconceived notions and judgment, you need to see the world through other people’s eyes. This doesn’t require you believe what they believe or condone their behavior, it simply means you quit passing judgment long enough to truly understand what makes them tick. Only then can you let them be who they are.

They Smile
People naturally (and unconsciously) mirror the body language of the person they’re talking to. If you want people to like you, smile at them during a conversation and they will unconsciously return the favor and feel good as a result.

[and 9 more]

Monday, January 26, 2015

the darker side of Buddhism

Most people assume Buddhism is intimately associated with peace. And because of this, some wonder if Buddhism is superior to other world religions, especially in the wake of the killings at the office of a satirical newspaper in Paris.

There is indeed a close connection between Buddhism and peace, as the first precept in Buddhism prohibits killing or causing harm. But like other faiths, there is a darker, violent side to the religion as well.

Upayakausalya (Skill in Means) Sutra tells the story of a past life of the Buddha, where he is captain of a boat carrying 500 merchants. In a dream one night, deities inform him that one of the passengers is a bandit who is planning to kill all the merchants.

The Buddha considers three possible actions: Do nothing and allow the bandit to kill everyone; inform the merchants, who would then kill the bandit themselves and incur evil karma for their murder as a result, or kill the bandit himself. The Buddha ponders this ethical dilemma for several days, and eventually decides to murder the bandit himself. The sutra does not interpret this as retribution for evil, but as an act of compassion that saves the bandit from the horrible karmic consequences of mass murder, and allows the bandit to be reborn in heaven.

A distinction is made between allowing the merchants to kill the bandit in anger, which would result in their rebirth in hell, and the Buddha’s murder with “great compassion” and “skillful means,” which saves everyone.

In short, violence is justifiable when performed by the Buddhas and Buddhists, but condemned when committed by non-Buddhists. This, in part, explains Buddhist complicity in wars throughout Asian history.

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My wife denies Buddhists can practice their faith and be violent. In this way, she is like my Muslim friends who claim the Quran is misread when used to justify violence. Or like my Christian friends who claim Jesus only preached tolerance and family values.

A closer look at their religious traditions would reveal otherwise.

There is no hypocrisy here, though. When it comes to committing violent acts or hateful behavior, decent people of religious faith are either unaware of the violent and appalling passages in their scriptural tradition or know them but — thankfully — reinterpret them or reject them outright. Decent people are still peaceful and tolerant, even when strands within their religious traditions encourage them to be otherwise.

My wife respects the faith of others (though some do not respect hers in return). She is a decent person and a pretend Buddhist.

The world should be filled with religious pretenders.

-- Jay Sakashita, Midweek, January 21, 2015

Friday, January 23, 2015

$4.9 million?

YouTube provides hours of entertainment for many, but for a select few it also means millions of dollars in advertising revenue. YouTube allows certain content creators to monetize their videos through their “YouTube Partner Program,” which means ads will play before or around a video, and the content creator will be paid through an AdSense account.

Some of the top earners include Taylor Swift, EMI Music, and the WWE. The number one earner, however, is a woman who makes videos of herself unboxing Disney (DIS) toys -- and according to OpenSlate, she made $4.9 million in 2014 from YouTube ads alone.

The channel, DisneyCollectorBR, features hundreds of videos of well-manicured hands opening Disney toys and an accented voice describing what’s inside of the packaging. We never see the owner’s face and her identity is a mystery.

Thursday, January 22, 2015

Career Success

It has been over three years since Steve Jobs died.

Since then, books have been written and movies have been made.

Each has celebrated his legacy and aimed to share the secrets he used to build the largest company in the world; things like attention to detail, attracting world-class talent and holding them to high standards.

We think we understand what caused his success.

We don’t.

We dismiss usable principles of success by labeling them as personality quirks.

What’s often missed is the paradoxical interplay of two of his seemingly opposite qualities; maniacal focus and insatiable curiosity. These weren’t just two random strengths. They may have been his most important as they helped lead to everything else.

Bill Gates Annual Letter 2015

We're putting our credibility, time, and money behind this bet — and asking others to join us — because we think there has never been a better time to accelerate progress and have a big impact around the world.

Some will say we're irrational to make this bet too. A skeptic would look at the world's problems and conclude that things are only getting worse. And we shouldn't lose sight of the fact that a handful of the worst-off countries will continue to struggle.

But we think the next 15 years will see major breakthroughs for most people in poor countries. They will be living longer and in better health. They will have unprecedented opportunities to get an education, eat nutritious food, and benefit from mobile banking. These breakthroughs will be driven by innovation in technology — ranging from new vaccines and hardier crops to much cheaper smartphones and tablets — and by innovations that help deliver those things to more people.

The rich world will keep getting exciting new advances too, but the improvements in the lives of the poor will be far more fundamental — the basics of a healthy, productive life. It's great that more people in rich countries will be able to watch movies on super hi-resolution screens. It's even better that more parents in poor countries will know their children aren't going to die.

[via twitter]

[1/23/15] How to narrow the gap of inequality

Monday, January 19, 2015

Unbroken

Like many who have read Laura Hillenbrand’s book Unbroken, the impeccably researched story of Olympic runner Louie Zamperini, the film version was greatly anticipated — even more so for my wife Susan and me, because we were part of a small, ad-hoc group that organized Zamperini’s visit to Oahu a few years ago when he spoke to several hundred Marines and sailors aboard the USS Missouri.

The story, briefly, is of a bright, high-spirited, live-onthe-edge kid raised in the small town of Torrance, Calif. Because he was frequently in trouble with local cops for petty crimes, he learned how to run very fast. He honed his running skills to the point of eventually making the varsity track squad at University of Southern California, and qualifying for the 1936 U.S. Olympic team to compete in Germany. He was a shoo-in for the 1940 team to compete in Japan, but the onset of World War II made those games impossible, so instead — like many of his “Greatest Generation” contemporaries — he enlisted in the military.

In May of 1947, as an Army Air Corps bombardier, his crippled, Hawaii-based B-24 bomber crashed into the Pacific. He and a fellow crewman survived in a rubber life raft, drifting westward for 47 days. Ultimately, they were captured by a Japanese patrol boat, then transferred to a prison ship to Japan, where they were POWs for the next two years.

Zamperini’s time as a POW was made even more hellish by a certain Japanese prison commander, who knew of Zamperini’s Olympic experience and immediately detected the American’s defiant attitude. “The Bird,” as he was known by the POWs, hounded him mercilessly, administering frequent beatings without reason. He singled him out for the hardest prison work details, grinding him down physically and mentally. “Zamp” became obsessed by his hatred for The Bird, vowing revenge no matter how far off in the future.

The war ended in August 1945. The POWs were repatriated, and Zamp’s homecoming with his family was all he had hoped for. Because of his Olympian fame, he got more press and adoration than the average returnee. There was enormous interest in hearing him speak. He soon met and married a 20-year-old beauty named Cynthia Applewhite. He couldn’t believe his good fortune when she accepted his proposal. Even then, he doubted his worthiness.

This was only the first of many doubts that would haunt him. The social whirl and demand for his presence started going to his head. He started drinking more of the drinks people wanted to buy him. Soon he was adding whiskey to a normal cup of coffee at breakfast. He had become more and more obsessed by his hatred for The Bird. He would plot in his stupored mind how he would return to Japan to hunt down and kill The Bird. He had nightmares about his POW days.

He began to mistreat Cynthia, who was now pregnant. She attended a revival session, held in a tent near their Hollywood apartment. She urged Louie to come and listen to the words of a young preacher named Billy Graham. He did, but when Graham announced the alter call, Louie “took Cynthia by the arm and bulled their way from the tent.” When she threatened divorce, he gave in once more. The next night, when Graham invited the alter call, Louie stood up in that back row of the tent ready for another fast exit. But suddenly he had a flashback: He was lying on the bottom of a rubber raft, and he recalled a promise he had forgotten until that very moment: “God, if you will save me, I will serve you for the rest of my life.” This was the last flashback he would ever have.

The next morning he lay still next to Cynthia. As Hillenbrand wrote: “What was resonating with him now was not all that he had suffered, but the divine love he believed had intervened to save him. He was not the worthless, broken, forsaken man Bird had striven to make of him. In a single silent moment, his rage, his fear, his humiliation and helplessness had fallen away. That morning he believed he was a new creation. Softly, he wept.”

The shame is that the movie ended right after his release from the Japanese prison and portrayed none of his struggle to forgive and move on — a struggle in many ways more difficult than the years as a POW. Ultimately, the message of Unbroken is about the redeeming qualities of forgiveness. All of this was only summarized in three brief paragraphs of script at the end of the film — a real disappointment for those who had read the book.

-- Jerry Coffee, Midweek January 14, 2015

Wednesday, January 14, 2015

Mike Huckabee and Beyoncé

Has anyone else noticed how Mike Huckabee can’t stop talking about Beyoncé?

First, he comments that her husband, Jay-Z, is undoubtedly “exploiting his wife” like a “pimp” (for all the reasons this is wrong, see my colleague Alyssa Rosenberg) and that her dance moves belong in the “bedroom.”

But he won’t stop! He told People that he can’t believe the Obamas let their daughters listen to her music, whose lyrics he has called “obnoxious and toxic mental poison.” (That would be a passable album title.) “I don’t understand,” he told the magazine, “how on one hand they can be such doting parents and so careful about the intake of everything — how much broccoli they eat and where they go to school … and yet they don’t see anything that might not be suitable” in Beyoncé’s lyrics.

Mike, is everything all right? What has brought on this fixation?

Some theories about what led to this moment:

-- by Alexandra Petri, Washington Post

Monday, January 12, 2015

tuna torch

Maybe I'll try this next time there's a power outage.

[facebook suggested post]

Saturday, January 10, 2015

Berlantiverse

Since it was announced that Warner Television and DC Comics were working with Greg Berlanti (Green Lantern, Arrow, The Flash) and CBS to develop a new DC Comics television series starring Supergirl, the Kryptonian cousin of Superman, it was widely specualted as to whether or not Supergirl would exist in the same universe as Arrow and The Flash, since the shows would be airing on different networks. Well, there is no longer any speculation. It has been confirmed that Executive Producer Greg Berlanti does indeed to have Supergirl set in the same universe as his CW shows, which most refer to the DC Television Universe but which I have taken to calling the Berlantiverse.

foods that you shouldn't refrigerate

10 foods you should never keep in the refrigerator

coffee
onions - however after cutting refrigerating is a must
potatoes - should be stored in paper bags
bread - if you are not able to eat the bread within four days after opening,  put it in the freezer
honey - it can be frozen, but not refrigerated
winter squash - however summer squash like zucchini needs refigeration
tomatoes - only refrigerate once cut into
garlic - keep in a dry place, the shelf life decreases as you start removing its cloves
hot sauce
stone fruit - fruit such as plums, peaches, apricots, nectarines will ripen best outside of the refrigerator

Huffington Post's list (only three)
potatoes
tomatoes
onions

Huffington Post (10)
tomatoes
basil
potatoes
onions
avocados
garlic
bread
olive oil
coffee
honey

LifeHack 12 foods
oils
coffee
tomatoes
onions
potatoes
bananas
honey
garlic
melon
avocado
breads
fresh herbs

I'm surprised they didn't mention peanut butter

eatingwell has it on their list to refrigerate
natural peanut butter
whole wheat flour
nuts
oils
butter

(now I see a similar entry I made in July :)




Friday, January 09, 2015

use pineapple juice as cough syrup

When it comes to treating persistent cough and cold, pineapple juice can soothe a sore throat and helps to cough out all the stubborn mucus. One study that compared over-the-counter cough syrup and pineapple extract showed that pineapple was five times more effective. Patients recovered 4.8 times quicker when taking the natural pineapple remedy, and had an overall improvement in their cold symptoms.

In 2010, a group of Indian scientists looked into different treatments for tuberculosis. They discovered that a mixture of pineapple juice, raw honey, pepper and salt helped to dissolve the mucus in the patient’s lungs.

When you reach for pineapple juice as your healing modality, it is important to get unprocessed natural juice. Store-bought brands often contain a lot of sugar and not much real fruit. If you have a juicer at home, the best option is to make your own fresh juice. Just follow this simple recipe:
  • 1 cup of fresh pineapple juice
  • A quarter of a cup of fresh lemon juice
  • Some fresh ginger
  • A tablespoon of raw organic honey
  • Half a teaspoon of cayenne pepper
  • You can also add some turmeric (this will help with your digestion)
Mix all the ingredients and drink two to three times a day. Now you have your own cough remedy with no toxic chemicals added.

[via paula]

Tuesday, January 06, 2015

The Human Diet

Dr. John McDougall says the (healthy) human diet is a starched-based diet.

[email from roy]

The Starch Solution (1:15:22)

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More from roy

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Friday, January 02, 2015

unlock your true destiny

Seven Keys to Unlocking Your True Destiny:

• You are destined to be happy and successful: Don’t let circumstances, situations or people tell you otherwise. See obstacles as challenges instead of impossibilities.

• Become the person you already are: Find and cultivate the real you instead of conforming to the expectations of others.

• Don’t look back and don’t look forward. Look around instead: Take time to enjoy the present moment and appreciate the places and people that surround you.

• Your relationships reflect who you are: Improving relationships begins with improving yourself and valuing others.

• Find hope and trust in the source of life that is within you and greater than you. Let it empower you and be your strength during difficult times.

• Be a gift to others: You are unique and no one else can offer what you can.

• Give me money: Great gains involve sacrifice. Reset your priorities and demonstrate that you are not bound to material wealth. You will be blessed with an abundance of it in return.

The above points are rubbish. I created this list in five minutes before I could even finish the drink in my big red plastic cup. [Well, I thought that last one seemed a little odd.] The above “keys” are similar to strategies presented in self-help books and workshops (and in some religious groups, too) and, as such, they should be viewed with a critical eye.

-- Jay Sakashita, Midweek, 12/24/14

Donna Douglas

Donna Douglas, star of hit show The Beverly Hillbillies, passed away Thursday night. She was 81.

Her granddaughter confirms to TMZ that she died at her home in Louisiana surrounded by friends and family. She starred on the CBS show for all nine seasons and returned for a reunion TV movie in 1981. In addition to playing Elly May Clampett on The Beverly Hillbillies, Douglas appeared in several other hit shows, including The Twilight Zone, Mister Ed and Route 66. She also co-starred with Elvis Presley in Frankie and Johnny.

Her big break came in 1962 when was cast as Elly May Clampett.

"No one ever had to tell me how to play Elly May when that part came along," Douglas told The Advocate. "They asked me if I could milk a goat and I said 'sure!' I knew everything about her. When I got that part, I thought my little heart would pop open."

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For Donna Douglas, it sounds as though art really did reflect life in a way.

The actress died Thursday at the age of 81 at her home in Louisiana and, while she was easily most famous for playing Elly May Clampett, the beautiful fish-out-of-water niece of an accidental oilman on The Beverly Hillbillies, Douglas enjoyed a fruitful career and in later years reflected on having had the type of life that she never would have dared to dream of having.

Still vivacious and famously platinum-blond, Douglas sat down with E! News back in 2000 and talked about her own small-town roots, none of which made her think she'd one day be a Hollywood star.

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The Thanksgiving episode