Sunday, January 29, 2017

showering too much?

What’s your daily routine? Do you wake up, take a shower, brush your teeth, and head out into the world? Or do you prefer a nice relaxing shower before heading off to bed for a good night’s sleep?

Whichever time of day you like to bathe, you probably do so fairly regularly, at least several times a week. After all, cleanliness is key when it comes to being healthy and attractive, right?

Well, maybe not. Maybe, just maybe, you should actually be showering way less than you are.

According to several people, including MIT graduate Dan Whitlock, who invented a line of alternative products designed to replace traditional soaps called MotherDirt, and Atlantic writer James Hamblin, you should maybe stop showering altogether.

Seriously.

Although not ever showering seems too extreme for most people, there is evidence that cleaning yourself too much, especially with soaps and detergents full of drying and artificially-scented materials, can in fact have a detrimental impact on your body, and that people who do not regularly bathe in the manner we do, with hot water and soaps, tend to have healthier and more robust populations of friendly bacteria in and on their bodies, meaning they get fewer infections and have stronger immune systems.

parenting technique

What is the most unique and effective parenting technique you've used or seen used?
Jenni Claire, Have alot of adult offspring
Updated Sat

My older sister has three kids. When my daughter was born, I never wanted to put her down, but I was afraid I'd spoil her. My sister said :

“Just remember, you spoil kids by giving them too much stuff, but you can't spoil them with attention. You can never spoil them by giving them too much affection”.

Best advice anyone ever gave me: Love before stuff.

That's nearly 30 years ago.

Her kids turned out well. Mine have, too. Partly that's just good luck and good circumstances, but partly it was, I think, her excellent technique.

Thursday, January 26, 2017

two things to do everyday

What can I do for 10 minutes every day that will change my life?

Dushka Zapata, Avid learner.
Updated Feb 10, 2016

I love this question and the collection of answers. I will apply many of them to my days ahead. Thank you!

I have two tips I didn't see in a very quick scan of the answers you already have:

Resolve to stop complaining, so that the churning, pointless energy you waste on that is put towards something useful.

Make a daily list of things you are grateful for. Gratitude is powerful. It changes your perspective.

Wednesday, January 25, 2017

Mary Tyler Moore

Mary Tyler Moore, the star of TV’s beloved “The Mary Tyler Moore Show” whose comic realism helped revolutionize the depiction of women on the small screen, died today, said her publicist, Mara Buxbaum. She was 80.

Moore gained fame in the 1960s as the frazzled wife Laura Petrie on “The Dick Van Dyke Show.” In the 1970s, she created one of TV’s first career-woman sitcom heroines in “The Mary Tyler Moore Show.”

“She was an impressive person and a talented person and a beautiful person. A force of nature,” said producer, creator and director Carl Reiner, who created the “The Dick Van Dyke Show,” told The Associated Press. “She’ll last forever, as long as there’s television. Year after year, we’ll see her face in front of us.”

Moore won seven Emmy awards over the years and was nominated for an Oscar for her 1980 portrayal of an affluent mother whose son is accidentally killed in “Ordinary People.”

She had battled diabetes for many years. In 2011, she underwent surgery to remove a benign tumor on the lining of her brain.

Moore’s first major TV role was on the classic sitcom “The Dick Van Dyke Show,” in which she played the young homemaker wife of Van Dyke’s character, comedy writer Rob Petrie, from 1961-66.

With her unerring gift for comedy, Moore seemed perfectly fashioned to the smarter wit of the new, post-Eisenhower age. As Laura, she traded in the housedress of countless sitcom wives for Capri pants that were as fashionable as they were suited to a modern American woman.

Laura was a dream wife and mother, but not perfect. Viewers identified with her flustered moments and her protracted, plaintive cry to her husband: “Ohhhh, Robbbb!”

Moore’s chemistry with Van Dyke was unmistakable. Decades later, he spoke warmly of the chaste but palpable off-screen crush they shared during the show’s run.

They also appeared together in several TV specials over the years and in 2003, co-starred in a PBS production of the play “The Gin Game.”

But it was as Mary Richards, the plucky Minneapolis TV news producer on “The Mary Tyler Moore Show” (1970-77), that Moore truly made her mark.

At a time when women’s liberation was catching on worldwide, her character brought to TV audiences an independent, 1970s career woman. Other than Marlo Thomas’ 1960s sitcom character “That Girl,” who at least had a steady boyfriend, there were few precedents.

Mary Richards was comfortable being single in her 30s, and while she dated, she wasn’t desperate to get married. She sparred affectionately with her gruff boss, Lou Grant, played by Ed Asner, and addressed him always as “Mr. Grant.” And millions agreed with the show’s theme song that she could “turn the world on with her smile.”

The show was filled with laughs. But no episode was more memorable than the bittersweet finale when new management fired the entire WJM News staff — everyone but the preening, clueless anchorman, Ted Baxter. Thus did the series dare to question whether Mary Richards actually did “make it after all.”

The series ran seven seasons and won 29 Emmys, a record that stood for a quarter century until “Frasier” broke it in 2002.

“Everything I did was by the seat of the pants. I reacted to every written situation the way I would have in real life,” Moore told The Associated Press in 1995. “My life is inextricably intertwined with Mary Richards’, and probably always will be.”

Saturday, January 21, 2017

a letter to Jordan Ritter

What are some huge life lessons you've learned that you would want to tell your younger self?

Jordan Ritter, CEO of Atlas Informatics, formerly Napster, Cloudmark

Spend deliberate, intentional time thinking about what you value most, what’s truly important to you. It’s an incredibly hard thing to do, to face your own truth, figure out what things you like, recognize things you don’t like, risk discovering unexpected things about yourself. But, that’s what it is to learn to live with, and ultimately love yourself, and through that, learn truly to appreciate and love other people for who they really are - fantastically diverse, amazing and deeply flawed human beings.

Be a Kind person, be an Honest person, and be a Loving person. For those of you reading this, these are the last words my father wrote to me just before he died when I was 17. He was trying to impart important wisdom on me, which I didn’t get at first, simply because I was too young. Later in life I came to understand how profound the message really was.

The Richard Feynman technique


Denis Matei
Denis Matei, Psychology student,INTJ
Elon uses the “Richard Feynman” technique from what I have read about his approach, mixed with his own technique called “first principles”.
…which is basically in simple terms: don’t try to remember, but try to understand; when you understand, you will remember automatically.
Sounds simple? But yet, so many people don’t do it like that. They try to cram loads of info and facts into their brains, especially students, with the result of forgetting a lot of it.
So how does Elon do it?
‘’One bit of advice: it is important to view knowledge as sort of a semantic tree -- make sure you understand the fundamental principles, ie the trunk and big branches, before you get into the leaves/details or there is nothing for them to hang on to.”
Quote from Elon Musk on Reddit.
So what Elon basically does is, he looks at the most fundamental principle of any subject matter, instead of separating the subject matters into smaller pieces.

signs of intelligence

They ask you questions.
When you answer, they ask you more.
When you start using big words, they ask for clarification.
When they can’t understand anything you’re saying, they ask for you to explain it to them as if they were a five-year-old.
When you say something intriguing, they write it down in their notebook or phone.
These people are not naturally more intelligent. They’re better learners which makes them more intelligent.
Why do they learn better?
They’re genuinely curious and ask questions from a humble standpoint. I’ve met billionaires who’ve said, “explain it to me as if I were a five-year-old.”
This simple phrase has changed my life when it comes to learning.
It comes back to the famous Chinese proverb:
“He who asks a question is a fool for five minutes; he who does not ask a question remains a fool forever”
  • As soon as you stop asking questions, you stop learning.
  • As soon as you stop writing down ideas, you forget them.
The hardest part of becoming intelligent is not bullshitting yourself about what you know; it’s being humble enough to ask questions. If you can do this, then people will see you as intelligent, too.

-- Josh Fechter on Quora

Thursday, January 12, 2017

The Case Against Sugar

Did food companies deliberately set out to manipulate research on American health in their favor? Gary Taubes’s powerful new history, ‘The Case Against Sugar,’ will convince you that they did.

By EUGENIA BONE, Wall Street Journal, Updated Dec. 29, 2016 6:41 p.m. ET

In 2012, New York Mayor Michael Bloomberg announced the Sugary Drinks Portion Cap Rule (aka the Soda Ban) prohibiting the sale of sugary beverages of greater than 16 ounces. His administration had successfully curtailed smoking in restaurants and bars, a move that inspired similar ordinances nationwide, and supporters of the Soda Ban considered the new measure a concrete proposal to respond to the epidemics of obesity and diabetes that have afflicted the country. (Diabetes is the seventh leading cause of death in the U.S.) New York courts tanked the rule, saying that the Board of Health had exceeded its regulatory authority, but not before soda companies had undertaken a counterattack, hiring canvassers to solicit signatures on the street and even launching a perverse television ad campaign claiming that the rule would adversely affect lower-income families.

One wonders whether the debate might have been different if everyone involved had been able to read Gary Taubes’s blitz of a book, “The Case Against Sugar.” In his 2010 best seller, “Why We Get Fat,” Mr. Taubes argued that carbohydrates like grains and starchy vegetables were behind the obesity epidemic. “In a world without cigarettes, lung cancer would be a rare disease, as it once was,” he wrote. “In a world without carbohydrate-rich diets, obesity would be a rare condition as well.” This time around, he focuses on the “unique physiological, metabolic, and endocrinological effects” that sugars have on the human body, how they trigger obesity and diabetes, and the role that the food industry has played in covering up sugar’s contributions to our national health crisis.

Mr. Taubes’s argument is so persuasive that, after reading “The Case Against Sugar,” this functioning chocoholic cut out the Snacking Bark and stopped eating cakes and white bread. It was easier than I expected: Within a week, I was so sensitive to sugar that I could taste it in the weirdest places; in a restaurant salad, for instance, and in my organic yogurt. When I ate a piece of Thanksgiving squash pie, it made my head buzz. I felt like I’d just taken a hit off a tank of nitrous oxide.

For me, getting off sugar was a health tweak, but for many Americans, it may be a matter of life or death. More than 35% of Americans are considered obese, and the health risks of obesity include Type 2 diabetes and heart disease. Almost 50% of Americans have diabetes or pre-diabetes, a condition that features higher than normal sugar levels in the blood—sometimes much higher. Diabetes has long been considered the penalty of obesity, and obesity, reports Mr. Taubes, has long been blamed on a couple of deadly sins—gluttony and sloth—and the consumption of “all calories together, rather than sugar by itself.” The idea that we get obese because we take in more calories than we expend is a notion so ingrained in public-health conversations that “arguments to the contrary have typically been treated as quackery.”

“The Case Against Sugar” builds upon the case he made in “Why We Get Fat,” carefully laying out the science to show that a sugar calorie is not like a spinach calorie but “triggers the progression to obesity, diabetes and the diseases that associate with them.” Here’s how. Sugar is a simple carbohydrate. Carbohydrates in your food are the source of glucose in your blood, and glucose powers your cells. Insulin is a hormone that transports glucose from your bloodstream into your cells and, as Mr. Taubes puts it, “signals the fat cells to take up fat and hold onto it.” Under normal conditions a cell has abundant receptors for insulin and has no problem processing the glucose. But if you consume high, constant volumes of maple syrup, corn syrup, agave, honey, raw or refined sugar, your pancreas responds by producing more insulin, and cells adapt by reducing their responsiveness to it. (The same thing can occur when you eat refined starches like white bread, white rice and potatoes; they are digested so rapidly they flood your bloodstream with glucose.)

What happens next? Basically, the cell stops listening to the insulin knocking at the door. This is insulin resistance. When the cell starts refusing to take glucose from the blood, glucose builds up in the bloodstream, causing the pancreas to make even more insulin, which (you will recall) tells the cells to hold onto your fat. It’s a feedback loop that causes obesity and culminates in Type 2 diabetes. (Type 1 diabetes, which is less common, derives from insulin deficiency.) The link between obesity and Type 2 diabetes is one of such interdependence that the term “diabesity” has been coined.

Methodically, relentlessly, Mr. Taubes argues that “bad science” over the course of many years primarily blamed obesity, diabetes and other “Western diseases” on overeating or lack of exercise or both. This mistake, made by clinicians starting in 1907, became institutionalized because the medical field tends to be obedient to “a small number of influential authorities.” But as the evidence against sugar built, and more researchers reported the correlation between sugar calories, obesity and diabetes, the food industry moved in to protect its turf. Mr. Taubes cites one 1953 ad in which Domino Sugar claimed “3 Teaspoons of Pure Domino Sugar Contain Fewer Calories than One Medium Apple.” That’s a little like saying a cubic meter of methane gas costs less to produce than a cubic meter of sunshine.

“The Case Against Sugar” is a history of the food industry and the medical science that has both supported and denied the role of sugar in disease. It explores the addictive aspect of sugar (which anyone with a toddler is familiar with); the “peculiar evil” of marketing sweets and sweetened cereals to children; and the industry’s 60-year effort to shift the blame for obesity and diabetes to saturated fats and behavior. In the 1960s, for example, the Sugar Association, a trade group, became concerned about the emerging evidence linking sugar to diabetes and heart disease. It worked hard, Mr. Taubes claims, to “combat the accumulating evidence from researchers,” by financing industry-friendly research and besmirching the credibility of scientists whose research suggested that sugar was unhealthy. These efforts were successful enough to influence the language of FDA reports on sugar in 1977 and 1986, as well as the first government-compiled Dietary Guidelines, released in 1980, which unsurprisingly declared that fat caused disease.

Opinions began to change in 2007 when the “Sugar Papers,” a trove of internal documents detailing the relationship between the sugar industry and medical researchers in the 1960s and 1970s, was discovered by Cristin Kearns, the general manager of a large group of dental practices. The trove—which she found by (wait for it . . . ) googling—revealed that the sugar industry had worked with the National Institutes of Health to create a federal program to combat tooth decay in kids that did not recommend limiting sugar consumption. Mr. Taubes convinced me that these food companies deliberately set out to manipulate research on American health to their favor and to the detriment of the American public.

As the author’s own account shows, he is hardly the first to warn of the toxicity of sugar. But busting sugar is tough: In the early ’80s, high-fructose corn syrup replaced sugar in sodas and other products in part because refined sugar had developed a reputation as generally noxious, and corn was a vegetable, for God’s sake. This is a bait and switch. All sugars produce the same biological results if you consume enough. Soda is a particularly pernicious way to overdose on sugar because it’s just sweetened water—drinking a can of Pepsi doesn’t seem analogous to eating cheesecake.

This year, San Francisco became the first American city to require health warnings that say: “Drinking beverages with added sugar(s) contributes to obesity, diabetes, and tooth decay” on public advertisements after the beverage industry failed to get a court order to stop it. Starting on Jan. 1, Philadelphia will be the first major city to institute a 1.5 cent per ounce tax on sodas and other sugary drinks. But the battle goes on. Between 2009 and 2015, soda companies spent $106 million opposing local and federal public-health initiatives, according to Mr. Taubes. Just last year this paper ran an article about the Global Energy Balance Network, a nonprofit funded by Coca-Cola that “suggested Americans were overly fixated on calories and not paying enough attention to exercise.” The story will sound familiar to any reader of Mr. Taubes’s book.

“The Case Against Sugar” should be a powerful weapon against future misinformation. In 2015 the New York Times’s health columnist Jane Brody reported that she’d heard people saying: “Let me know when the nutrition gurus make up their minds and maybe then I’ll change my diet.” Well, there is a lack of agreement about the amount of sugar that can be consumed in a healthy diet. But “ultimately and obviously,” writes Mr. Taubes, “the question of how much is too much becomes a personal decision, just as we all decide as adults what level of alcohol, caffeine, or cigarettes we’ll ingest.” Consider the evidence. Decide for yourself.

—Ms. Bone, the author of “Mycophilia: Revelations from the Weird World of Mushrooms,” is writing a history of microbes.

Sunday, January 08, 2017

two social skills

The most charismatic people have 2 Main things in common. These 2 Traits are learnable, can be brought to a great level without much effort and yet still take time to master fully. Once known they will make you popular, others will listen to you, want to be around you and they will treat you with more respect than they ever have. Here they are:

1. Turn yourself into an active Listener. What is the feeling you get when you talk to someone amazing? Don’t you feel as if the entire world revolves around you for the time you talk to them?
When you can show someone that they are the most important thing to you at this moment in time, they feel amazing. They develop a feeling of gratitude towards you because you treat them like they really matter. In the end, we all want to feel like our life had some meaning, like we weren’t just a grain of sand floating in the wind. Giving someone this feeling is amazing for them, but it also makes you pay attention.

Active Listeners value their conversation partners and everything they have to say, even if they do not agree with it. Most people just listen. They think about other things, get distracted or are not fully attentive to us when we talk. But if you change to become an active listener people will come to you with their problems, they will want to have more conversations with you and they will open up almost naturally to you.

This Skill is difficult to master because it puts a lot responsibility on you, but is quite easy to develop. If you want to make others feel important and meaningful, all you need to do is behave that way. When you are talking to someone important to you, make them feel that way as well. Think that you have to hold a speech on what they say the next day in front of 100 people.

Also, think that whatever they tell you means a lot to them. This is something very personal and close to their heart and they are entrusting you with this right now. Thinking about these two things before going into a conversation will make you pay attention. You will not look at your phone and instead treat them like they mean the world to you right now.

2. Create an amazing attitude. When asked what the goal of life was for people, most responded with “I just want to be happy.” Happiness, feeling elated and excited, are feelings we all seek every day. We spend money on experiences and things that are supposed to make us feel that way. Work hard to be able to pay for a few happy experiences, and even sacrifice most of our life so that we get a small glimpse of it.

Now, what do you believe would happen if you were a source of happiness and excitement for others? How would others behave around you if you made them feel amazing? What about if you had so much fun that they were envious of that fun?

People will start to treat you with more respect. They will value you more because you are giving them that which they seek from life, which means, if you talk to them and are around them, they will listen to you and respect you.

This is a trade you are undergoing here. You are willing to give them the feeling of happiness by sharing your own happiness with them, and for that you receive their attention and respect.


Think about it: Why are people with humor so popular? Comedians and Celebrities with a sense of humor can take over entire stadiums when they speak because they are liked and valued. People listen to them, trust them and aspire to be like them, all because of their positive attitude!

You may not be able to take over entire stadiums when you speak, but maybe your circle of friends and the smaller events you attend. To do this start to have fun for yourself. Be a little selfish and see how you can have the most fun. If you follow that path you will eventually radiate that happiness to the people around you.
Learn to have an amazing attitude and not only will people want to spend more time with you, but you will also have a better life and way more fun!

-- Lukas Schwekendiek via Quora

Sunday, January 01, 2017

the difference between Republicans and Democrats

I recently asked my friend's little girl what she wanted to be when she grew up. She said she wanted to be president of the United States.
Both of her parents, liberal Dems , were standing there, so I asked her what she would do first. She replied: "I'd give food and houses to all the homeless people." Her parents beamed.
“Wow, what a worthy goal,” I told her, “but you don't have to wait until you're president to do that. You can come over to my house, mow the lawn, pull weeds and sweep my driveway, and I will pay you $50. Then I will take you over to the grocery store where the homeless guy hangs out, and you can give him the $50 to use toward a new house and food.”
She thought it over for a few seconds, then asked, "Why doesn't the homeless guy come over to your house and do the work and you can just pay him the $50?"
I said, "Welcome to the Republican Party."

-- Anthony Zarrella via Quora

what liberals and conservatives think of each other

Charles Krauthammer once said this: “To understand the workings of American politics, you have to understand this fundamental law: Conservatives think liberals are stupid. Liberals think conservatives are evil.”

-- Stefan Voiculescu-Holvad on Quora